"Genderless" children is a term I have just recently encountered. Apparently what it means is to raise your child not telling them or anyone if they are male or female and allowing them to wear/play/be whoever they choose.
Ok, while that is NOT something I would do or encourage someone else to do, I am not one to judge other people's parenting...except this just rubs me the wrong way and seems like a good idea done wrong.
I don't understand the point in raising a child to not know if they are a boy or girl when that is a detrimental part of growing up. The issue I have is the secrecy of hiding the gender. We know that if a child feels they are in the wrong body, they know from a very young age and providing their parents are understanding and supportive they can freely express themselves.
What happens come puberty? Kids are hitting puberty earlier and earlier these days, what happens when this gender neutral kid wakes up and has a period? Or what happens when the child gets an erection and has no idea what is happening to its body?
I've dealt with a kid who liked "girly" things. For a while, Zain's favorite color was pink, he wanted barbies, he wanted girly things and we dealt with it just fine. We allowed him most things pink, we did draw the line with a few things mostly things that might get him picked on (ex: we did not buy him the "twinkle toes" brand shoes because they are glittery girly shoes and he was having enough issues with bullying at school) but we didn't tell him he was wrong for liking pink. He grew out of it and we all moved on.
Too many questions, too little time. All I know is that my sons know they are boys and if I'm blesses with a girl, she will know she's a girl. Oh and when people get upset for being bashed by others on the internet, they should realize that wouldn't happen if they had stayed off the internet
Ok, while that is NOT something I would do or encourage someone else to do, I am not one to judge other people's parenting...except this just rubs me the wrong way and seems like a good idea done wrong.
I don't understand the point in raising a child to not know if they are a boy or girl when that is a detrimental part of growing up. The issue I have is the secrecy of hiding the gender. We know that if a child feels they are in the wrong body, they know from a very young age and providing their parents are understanding and supportive they can freely express themselves.
What happens come puberty? Kids are hitting puberty earlier and earlier these days, what happens when this gender neutral kid wakes up and has a period? Or what happens when the child gets an erection and has no idea what is happening to its body?
I've dealt with a kid who liked "girly" things. For a while, Zain's favorite color was pink, he wanted barbies, he wanted girly things and we dealt with it just fine. We allowed him most things pink, we did draw the line with a few things mostly things that might get him picked on (ex: we did not buy him the "twinkle toes" brand shoes because they are glittery girly shoes and he was having enough issues with bullying at school) but we didn't tell him he was wrong for liking pink. He grew out of it and we all moved on.
Too many questions, too little time. All I know is that my sons know they are boys and if I'm blesses with a girl, she will know she's a girl. Oh and when people get upset for being bashed by others on the internet, they should realize that wouldn't happen if they had stayed off the internet
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